"As they passed the rows of houses they saw through the open doors that men were sweeping and dusting and washing dishes, while the women sat around in groups, gossiping and laughing. "What has happened?" the Scarecrow asked a sad-looking man with a bushy beard, who wore an apron and was wheeling a baby-carriage along the sidewalk. "Why, we've had a revolution, your Majesty -- as you ought to know very well," replied the man; "and since you went away the women have been running things to suit themselves. I'm glad you have decided to come back and restore order, for doing housework and minding the children is wearing out the strength of every man in the Emerald City." "Hm!" said the Scarecrow, thoughtfully. "If it is such hard work as you say, how did the women manage it so easily?" "I really do not know," replied the man, with a deep sigh. "Perhaps the women are made of cast-iron.""

- L. Frank Baum, "The Land of Oz"
Forcing Amy Grant To Apologize

As someone who is married to someone who worked for a Christian music company in Nashville for a while, plus as someone who has listened to almost exclusively Christian music for 25 years (thinkling regulars know my exception), and as someone whose second Christian album ever was an Amy Grant album (my first was David Meece) and as someone whose first Christian concert ever was an Amy Grant concert, and as someone who knew people who knew Amy during her difficult marriage with Gary Chapman, and as someone who finds the intersection of faith and dogma, truth and love, reality and ideals interesting, and as someone who has observed the curious goings on in the CCM industry for a long time, I found this article fascinating.

A First-Person Account From A Guy Who was Forced to Force Amy Grant To Apologize For Her Divorce

A snippet...

He threw an old copy of CCM on his desk in front of me. It was the issue with Amy on the cover, and the interview inside focused on her divorce from Gary Chapman.

“Have you read this interview?” Gerald asked.

“Yeah, I read it.”

“Pretty pathetic, isn’t it?” He thumbed through the pages of the interview, waiting for me to agree. When I didn’t say anything, he looked up. “Well?”

“How is that interview pathetic? I loved that story.”

“She doesn’t apologize, Matthew. For getting a divorce.” Gerald shifted in his chair. “Not one time. It’s as if she’s not sorry for disobeying God’s command to stay married. She needs to apologize.”

He closed the magazine.

“Who does she need to apologize to, Gerald?”

“Her fans. Us at CCM. And everybody she failed.”

Our chat went on like this for fifteen minutes. Eventually, Gerald got to his point.

“On Wednesday, when you do the interview, get her to apologize. Ask her to apologize if you need to.”

“Are you kidding me? You’re asking me walk into Amy’s house and get her to apologize for something that happened more than three years ago? She’s remarried, Gerald.”

Gerald threw his hands in the air. “I want her to apologize.”

“Gerald, this isn’t Watergate. We cover Christian music. Can’t we do a fun story and let the stupid divorce topic remain in the past?”

“God has rules.” He spun his chair toward the laptop sitting on a table next to his desk. “Either get Amy to apologize or we won’t run the story. Period. Get out of here.”

I walked out.

Two days later, as I pulled into Vince and Amy’s U-shaped driveway, my stomach ached at what Gerald wanted me to do. I shifted the car into park and began to panic. I’m getting ready to interrogate Amy Grant. I love Amy Grant. I want her to love me.


Watching people go in and out of favor with the CCM industry and Christian bookstore owners has always held a strange fascination for me. U2, Sandy Patty, Amy Grant, Michael English and so many more have all had their albums pulled and replaced again.

I don't want to be condemning anyone with this post. Not customers, artists, bookstores, or labels. It's just always been interesting to me the way Christian music consumers struggle with whether or not to buy a certain person's album based on their life. In my opinion, the judgement has sometimes been right, and sometimes wrong, and sometimes hypocritical. (Like not selling Amy Grant because of her divorce, but selling Kenny Rogers' latest Christmas Album because it was put out by a CCM label.)

Anyway check out the article above. It's really interesting.

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Comments on "Forcing Amy Grant To Apologize":
1. Justin - 05/15/2010 9:05 am CDT

I remember the bizarreness of that time in CCM. I was in a Christian college working at the student station, where we were getting people telling us Amy and Vince Gill were having an affair (and this was long before any divorce was made public). A month after the announcement I was at the Grant/Chapman farm watching Gary tape his CCM countdown show, and we were all told to not bring it up.

The double standard thing was on all of our minds, in part because we were seeing Amy's album pulled off radio and stores while LeAnn Rimes was being pushed to all of us, and Mariah Carey's Christmas album was everywhere in bookstores a few years prior. The formula for who is okay and who isn't still seems to be a total mystery to me.

2. Sara - 05/15/2010 9:44 am CDT

Right on.

3. Shrode - 05/15/2010 11:03 am CDT

Right with you Justin.

When my wife read this article, she commented that the editor in this story was being very "elder brother"ish. I thought that was a great insight.

4. Bird - 05/15/2010 11:51 am CDT

Don't forget to add King's X to the list! :-) Actually, I think King's X was briefly marketed to Christian markets (bookstores) for a short time right before Doug came out of the closet.

U2 has never marketed itself as a Christian industry band.

About the Christian music industry, and about Amy Grant, I struggle with understanding and accepting it (and her). I see the CCM industry as a business that anoints beautiful, talented people with the mantle of stardom and, consequently, with some sort of of pseudo-ordination. Consequently Christian artists are looked upon as pastors, apostles, prophets and evangelists. And in many cases, they're far from those things.

5. MzEllen - 05/15/2010 11:51 am CDT

When it comes to a divorce, for many people and denominations, a mere apology won't be enough anyway.

Having a divorce in your past is like having a scarlet letter for life, and that has nothing to do with CCM.

Fast forward to last month and Jennifer Knapp - what do you do with that?

6. MzEllen - 05/15/2010 12:18 pm CDT

Another example of alliances that may be align with beliefs is Phillips, Craig & Dean - Oneness Pentecostals who do not belief the doctrine of the Trinity.

7. Shrode - 05/15/2010 12:35 pm CDT

Doug Pinnick, Jennifer Knapp, Ray Bolz, Katy Perry (who released a Christian album under the name "Katy Hudson" before reinventing herself)Amy Grant, Vince Gill, Country artist who occasionally record a Gospel album, Flyleaf, John Tesh, POD...

To me, it's all interconnected, but I haven't figured out how to put it all together into a coherent post. I'm letting it all ruminate and swim around in my mind right now, and maybe it all come out in some way that makes sense eventually...

8. Jim Elder - 05/15/2010 1:04 pm CDT

Very interesting read, both yours and the article. Funny how we tend to hold up certain sins as "greater" than others, all the while committing sins ourselves that we (subconsciously)classify as "lessor" sins. They are not. Divorce and homosexuality are no greater sins than lying, gossiping, promiscuity, stealing (no matter how small), and so on. None of us know all the facts that played into Amy's divorce. None of us know what she had to work through in her own walk with the Lord to find forgiveness, with God, with family and friends, with herself. She doesn't need to ask me for forgiveness - she doesn't answer to me - I just listen to her music and am drawn into her searching, struggles, and discoveries through those songs.

As for CCM, in general, it is, ultimately, a business. As such, it makes its decisions by why of fads, sales, and an every shifting populace approach.

As for us, the CCM listener, I think we should hold artists accountable to their proclamations of faith but always understanding that, just like us, they fail and make bad decisions, but theirs is far more noticeable because of their public image and our voyeuristic culture, even in "Christian" circles. We are wrong, however, in looking to them as pastors, prophets, and shepherds. They are simply Christians struggling through this life, like us, sometimes with clarity, sometimes in a fog. And they need our prayers and God's grace, just like we do.

9. Bill - 05/15/2010 1:11 pm CDT

People are very complex and we're all, to varying degrees, crooked deep down. So I don't have a strong take.

When I was a younger, new Christian (and, a male in his early twenties who thought he knew it all, so - in other words - a huge pain in the neck to most everybody and thank goodness the blogosphere wasn't invented then) I thought CCM was hypocritical. I was also a music snob but this statement had nothing to do with music. What really troubled me was not CCM, but the way people talked about CCM artists. In those days, Amy Grant was considered by many to be a nearly perfect person. I could tell from her music that she wasn't.

I grew to really appreciate CCM and I don't like it when people give blanket condemnations of the music labelled as CCM. These artists work hard, most are very talented, and there is a good deal of creativity out there. But they are still people. And here's the problem, and it's a catch-22: There is a lot of good coming from CCM, it brings many people closer to God (20-something know-it-alls like I was notwithstanding). And it is a vehicle for the unique genre of worship music.

But it's still a business. Anytime money and faith mix there are going to be a lot of contradictions, compromises, etc.

The answer to that is not, I don't think, to throw the baby out with the bathwater as some would suggest.

For me the best answer is to take CCM for what it is

- it's a lyrical-genre (not necessarily a musical genre) that isn't going away

- It is constantly changing, with past hard lines and barriers moving all over the place.

- God can and is using it in people's lives.

- It is not essential for faith but can be helpful.

- It is not evil-incarnate and it isn't ruining music any more than any other music producing industry is (again, this is directed at the former me)

- It is a label placed on musicians, producers, publishers, etc (and some don't want the label).

- CCM artists are artists, and many probably have spiritual gifts centered around creativity. Many of them don't have spiritual gifts centered around evangelism, pastoring, teaching, prophecy, or discernment, and we shouldn't expect them to any more than we expect that from anyone else.

- Most importantly, it is an industry, and we should not expect too much from it. At the end of the day, people are making money off of it. Amy Grant has made a fortune off of CCM, for instance. Doesn't make her bad or good. Just a fact. She is our sister in Christ and should be treated with the same grace as we would treat anyone else.

10. Bill - 05/15/2010 1:12 pm CDT

Jim - I posted my comment before noticing yours - well said, and you said it more succinctly and cogently than I did :-)

11. Sherry - 05/15/2010 7:18 pm CDT

I agree with everything Bill and Jim said, but ...

Words have meaning. Singing songs about God's mercy and sin and forgiveness while living in open unrepentant sin is hypocritical (not talking about anyone specifically because I don't follow the details of any singer's life). We shouldn't look to CCM artists as "pastors, prophets, and shepherds," but what if they're preaching through the words to their music? What if they're preaching heresy? Or what if they're preaching truth but living a lie?

I don't have this all worked out either. It seems to me that the Jennifer Knapp deal (which I did read a little about on the internet) presents Chrisian retailers with a difficult decision. Do they sell the work oran artist who says that homosexuality is not a sin? It's not that homosexual behavior is any worse than any other sin; it's that she doesn't believe it's wrong at all. (As I understand)

If a talented Christian living in unrepentant sin wants to write a book and through that book explain to us all why he thinks that his particular sin is OK, should a Christian bookstore carry the book? I don't think so. How about if he writes a nice love story with no reference to whatever is going on in his life?

12. anonymous - 05/16/2010 7:15 am CDT

Does Amy grant owe her fans an apology? Maybe not. Should she publicly denounce the sins of adultery and divorce? Absolutely. That has not happened to my knowledge. I tend to agree with Sherry. It isn't that one particular sin is more damning than another. The most outwardly moral person who dies trusting in his goodness to save him will suffer eternal separation as sure as any flagrant homosexual or adulterer.
Great quote by Paul David Tripp-"“Before you can ever make a clean and unamended confession of your sin, you have to first begin by confessing your righteousness. It’s not just your sin that separates you from God; your righteousness does as well. Because, when you are convinced you are righteous, you don’t seek the forgiving, rescuing, and restoring mercy that can be found only in Jesus Christ.”
So long as anyone thinks there are sins that don't need to be repented of or that they're okay in God's eyes, there is no mercy.

13. nhe - 05/16/2010 12:30 pm CDT

I don't know what you're referring to with Jennifer Knapp, I'm going to have to look that up. It sounds like I'm going to be sad - I like her.

With this topic, I always think of Leslie Phillips. She sang one of my favorite Christian songs ever "It's Your Kindness that Leads us to Repentance", then she went supposedly "secular" and became Sam Phillips, and was one of the the bad guys in "Die Hard 3" - that always kind of freaked me out........but I choose to believe she's still God's child.

I think the editor in the story is like a lot of Christians who like their "secular" and their "sacred" separate. According to that view - secular artists can't really sing about anything "Godly" because Christ does not reside in them.

Conversely, "sacred" or Christian artists need to mind their p's and q's and be above reproach in all things because they sing about Jesus.

That's just not my world view. Some of my favorite Christian lyrics in music are from secular artists who would not even call themselves Christians. And then you can flip it - some of the biggest bubblegum cr*p lyrics out there are on Christian albums.

I think the secular and the sacred reside together in our world - and we need to especially see art through that light - both ways.

14. Shrode - 05/16/2010 3:11 pm CDT

nhe, I'm probably going to do a post on Jennifer Knapp soon. I'm just waiting until I can capture the right tone. I guess you probably know by now. I was a fan since her first album.

15. Jared - 05/16/2010 3:52 pm CDT

Yeah, Amy Grant never owed me an apology. But the sort of irritating thing about this whole episode is how so many CCM artists go on and on about authenticity and integrity and artistic honesty but then prove they don't mean it. Here's what I mean: While married to Gary Chapman, Amy Grant records the "House of Love" album which is about sticking it out, loving your lover forever, even though storms come, etc etc. Of course, one of the songs on there was a duet with Vince Gill. :-/

So when the divorce became public and her public remarks were along the lines that Chapman wanted to keep trying to work it out b/c he's "traditional" -- as if that is a bad thing -- I realized she didn't really mean what she sang. The songs were just performances.

While married to one man she was singing songs about staying together forever with the man she eventually would leave her husband for. I think it's fair for her "customers" to think this was shady.

16. nhe - 05/16/2010 5:18 pm CDT

Shrode - I'll be interested to hear your take on that........I googled her and of course it was right there at the top - it does make me sad, but it's definitely a "trend" that's happening that the church needs to address more effectively.

17. Milly - 05/16/2010 10:28 pm CDT

I apologize for my divorce. My husband cheated on me with a friend/shepherd’s wife. I lived through verbal abuse for years that worsened after he cheated the first time. I’m sorry for the divorce and breaking a promise to God.

Ummm now can I publish or have a CD?


BTW I love Vince! Go Okie dude and thanks for singing Go Rest High On That Mountain hearing it person brought tears to my eyes.

18. Milly - 05/16/2010 10:29 pm CDT

Point being she owes us nothing for her personal divorce

19. jen - 05/17/2010 9:44 am CDT

I think it's ridiculous for us to ever expect or demand an apology for any celebrity's actions. Unless that person has wronged me directly, there is no need for them to apologize or ask forgiveness from the masses. They only need do that with God and the parties directly involved.

Re: Amy Grant in particular, the whole thing with Vince made me uncomfortable, but I have no idea what happened in her marriage with Chapman. And it's none of my business. Period.

That said, how I choose to spend my time or money regarding said celebs in the wake of their public failures is my business. But aren't we to extend grace and forgiveness to our brothers and sisters? How can we withhold the very grace that God extends?

20. Bobbi - 05/17/2010 11:09 am CDT

We aren't to judge but we are to discern. I'm such a cheapskate I don't purchase music. When my son gave me a gift card to I Tunes I was overwhelmed! Finally I was able to purchase some hymns by Fanny Crosby. She wasn't a saint either!

21. ZZ - 05/29/2010 3:22 pm CDT

I think the reason a lot of Christians react so emotionally to her life, and to failings of Christian public figures in general, is personal shame. We know we're too sinful to model what's perceived as a good Christian life ourselves, so we come do depend on well-known Christians to display superhuman holiness so that we have somebody to point to when we make our rare attempts to evangelize. When one of them falls, we feel like they broke some kind of personal contract with us, a contract to make Jesus easier to sell, and a contract to shore up our own faith by example when we're weak. Not a healthy thing.

22. GIM - 11/06/2010 3:33 am CDT

I think Amy proved to be a class act and not rat out Chapman for the years of difficulty he brought to the home. As you may know by now, he was pulled over for drunk driving, and cited for pot possession. he went bankrupt on a ranch and lost his home. I have heard of substance while they were married. But, Amy has kept silent because Gary is still her kids' dad.

I don't know Gary personally, but he's on hotty wife #3 already. I don't care that he was her husband once, she did the right thing. he could have destroyed her if she dealt with it any longer. Technically, maybe she should not have remarried, but life goes on.

I love her and her craft. What wonderful times she has brought me for almost 30 years now.

23. Aaron - 12/01/2010 12:56 pm CST

I'm sorry, but I'm troubled by the fact that they are selling music of people that committed adultry but refuse to sell the music of Ray Boltz and Jennifer Knapp, even their older music. The fact that they came out does not change the message or the original intent of the music, does it? If they had never come out noone would have ever known and their music would still be on the shelves. Throughout junior high and high school we used so many of Ray Boltz's songs like "Thank you" for skits and performances. Both artists have a great message in their music.

Bottom line... sin is sin... hate the sin, not the sinner. God is love and says to love one another. Why not reach out to these people and minister to them rather than condeming them? Show them God's love, not the hatred and judgement of Christians (which we shouldn't be doing!)

24. Stucko - 12/01/2010 2:00 pm CST

GIM:

You said it!! Why are so few critics asking the obvious-- did Gary force Amy's hand? She refuses to hit the tabloids with scandalous backstory about Gary, tho she probably could and be considered a better woman for clearing the air. YES-- Gary is on wife #3, and brags about her on his Facebook page. All the while promoting his Hymn of the Week program!

To me, the story has not been told, and Amy takes it on the chin for staying quiet. True, marrying Vince is not the best optics. But, let's say Gary was unfaithful, would that mean Amy is condemned to singlehood the rest of her life? We don't know, but it looks like he enjoys his women (and booze and pot...).

So, let's leave her alone-- she has been a rock and anchor to me thru her music for decades, and I love her to death.

25. Stucko - 12/01/2010 2:10 pm CST

GIM:

You said it!! Why are so few critics asking the obvious-- did Gary force Amy's hand? She refuses to hit the tabloids with scandalous backstory about Gary, tho she probably could and be considered a better woman for clearing the air. YES-- Gary is on wife #3, and brags about her on his Facebook page. All the while promoting his Hymn of the Week program!

To me, the story has not been told, and Amy takes it on the chin for staying quiet. True, marrying Vince is not the best optics. But, let's say Gary was unfaithful, would that mean Amy is condemned to singlehood the rest of her life? We don't know, but it looks like he enjoys his women (and booze and pot...).

So, let's leave her alone-- she has been a rock and anchor to me thru her music for decades, and I love her to death.

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